The Key Habits to Developing Self-Confidence & Self-Esteem
Do you want more self-confidence, self-esteem, feeling higher sense of worth?
You are in the right place… If you are having trouble figuring out how to get there. You are not alone.
Imagine that self care is self confidence. How does this make sense?
Consider the things do you do each day to make yourself feel cared about… that you yourself do… that feels caring. It is done by you, for you, in order to make you feel good.
If you are scratching your head try being fully objective, write them on a paper so that you can actually see in black and white. Grab a pen and write a few down, go ahead, and think about it. What acts of caring and kindness are regular parts of your day?
1. brush teeth… is this maintenance or is this self-care?
2. getting yourself dressed… is this self-care? Do you think positive thoughts about you? Do you dress with the primary goal of making yourself feel great, look great, show your style, and appear properly presented.
3. self massage of your neck and shoulders
4. stretching…
5. sleeping and waking… many have a sense of self-punishment and anger when deciding about sleep patterns. Is this you?
Self care
Are the things you do to provide warmth and texture to your own life, to improve your physical & mental well-being. Are you getting stronger in your body. Are you bringing in new thoughts and ideas to develop your mind and to give you positive thoughts. Self Care is developing your intuition and learning to hear, listen to, and work on behalf of your inner guides to pursue a greater life purpose beyond day-to-day living.
Self Care Test: Do you brush your hair so that it is brushed. Or does it also make you smile.
Habits
Self care is making sure you have good habits and that you check in on those habits making sure they work for you. Are you prepared for the day with a proper introduction and start in the morning. Are you able to focus during the day, to be fully engaged, and completely present in-the-moment.
Self care is making someone of yourself that you admire and the process of becoming this person. Making someone of yourself requires good, productive Habits. Habits are key to living the best version of your life.
Self Confidence Review
Here is your question again, how to develop self confidence. Let’s break it down.
Confidence is a belief in the ability to do something. The basic question reworded, how can you believe that you can do things? The top coaches of the world talk about repetition, speed, and ability. These all lead to confidence in one’s ability to do something plus effectiveness. From the self-loving perspective confidence includes thinking and feeling positively about the self. This is the heart perspective.
Effectiveness + Ability = Self Confidence
Effectiveness + Ability + Speed = Higher Self Confidence
Looking in the mirror and feeling good about where you are and what you are doing is self-confidence in the heart.
Self Confidence is not Ego
Ego is an observer, like a fan at the game it is just a spectator. The Ego can be very talkative, but the Ego is not you. Just imagine the negative impact the ego can have on the players of a team. What do you think happens to the Player’s confidence with a negative fan yelling negative feedback constantly. How the inner voice of the Ego talks to you matters. Positive inner talk, checking the Ego, and taking an honest look at the truth of a specific situation leads to building the inner strength, the bricks to the house of high self esteem, self worth, and self confidence.
Creating Self Confidence happens Naturally
There are many things a person learns to do, and does. This builds confidence automatically, like walking. There are ways to help protect the positive space from negative outside influences.
Negative people teach negative self talk, by repeating an idea to your Ego over and over again. Eventually people take on this message and questions the self in the same way. This programming is changeable.
It is the athlete that gains the sense of abilities from the fans, does this seem backwards?
No one is alone in building inner strength. It can be helpful when dealing with negativity both from other people, negative situations, and from negative inner talk to use ancient tools such as crystals and gemstones.
Having a piece of Black Tourmaline in your pocket or around your wrist will work magic for absorbing and dissolving negative energies. Black Obsidian is an excellent Crystal to keep negative energies away while you re-set your own senses.
Allow Self Confidence to happen naturally with an open and positive space for you to think and feel for yourself. Imagine that you are able to do the things that you do everyday. There was a time when seeing others walking was like, “I’m going to do that.” And it was very wobbly at first and it took using the walls and anything within reach plus the belief that it would work. A positive attitude, practice, with crystals as your balancing force will bring you far. And they have been helping people for thousands of years to do just the same things you wish to do.
Creating Self Esteem Happens Naturally
Self Esteem is formed like this and felt like this. In what way do you regard your abilities. Are you good at things? In general, what do you think about how good you are at your life. This is your level of Self Esteem and it is naturally increased by things you do and think about the self. Do people tell you that you are good or not good? In this moment does it matter to you what other people (spectators) say? Does it matter what your Ego says? Or does it matter most what you feel.
Unfortunately, TV, other people, friends, family are overflowing with negative ideas and tend to focus on helplessness. The good news is that many negative influences can be turned off. The negative people can be minimized and their comments, impoliteness, and disrespect can be drained by using the ancient powers of protection stones in a process of grounding. You might see these people and thoughts completely disappear from your life without any effort!
Create distance to protect against negative energies is important. Protective Crystals & Gemstones have been used for this purpose for thousands of years. They protect a space for you to listen to your inner guides and find your truth and to hear what these guides sound like to you.
Self Respect & Self Confidence
What you tolerate is your level of Self Respect, Self Confidence, and Self Esteem.
How you feel about you, what sort of environment you want for yourself to live, learn, and develop yourself, and how you feel about your life. It becomes this is who I am and this is what I want for myself.
Self Respect is a feeling of how you treat yourself and how you want to be treated by others.
Self Confidence is all about positive experiences and the abilities you have to figure things out for yourself. There is a belief of progress and success and there is no such thing as failure.
Self Esteem and Self Worth are feelings about what level of ability and stature that you have attained.
Naturally Self Esteem grows as you realize how much effort you have put into developing your life, your physical body, your mind, keeping focused, having a positive attitude, and enriching the lives of others, this level of regard you have about you will increase and continue increasing as you become the person who you believe you are in beliefs, in thoughts, and in actions.
The Anti-Self Confidence
What is the opposite of Self Confident?
These things lower self esteem, self confidence, and self respect: Bad habits, not developing the self, and a negative attitude. These are forms of self anger. Now you can answer this question knowing what self-confidence is and how to create it. The opposite of self confident is self critical. Black Tourmaline, Black Onyx, and Tiger Eye stones are perfect to use to turn the scales of anti-confidence into positive self-confidence building.
The Force Multiplier of a Positive Attitude
The more experiences you have, you think about them with a positive attitude, and just watch as your self confidence grows and grows. Using positive stones such as soothing pink Rose Quarts, happy blue Chrysocolla, and blood red Garnet gives different sorts of feelings. Pick the stones that feel right and when you wear them it feels like magic but what is really happening is tapping into the ancient knowledge of these tools and using them now to work for you.
Inner Guides
There are inner guides that everyone has, outside influences, like spectators, try to quiet down these guides and convince you to ignore them, yet your inner guides are still here just as the Sun exists behind the clouds.
Your inner guides always are and always will exist for you, all you have to do is ask them and they will work to show you what you seek and to find the inner wisdom that gives you answers. Self Confidence are the bricks you use to build everything. Once you have found the answers it is up to you to make the necessary decisions about what you want to do and to then act on it and to do it until it is done. This is life! DECIDE - DO - DONE - SMILE
Crystals & Gemstones support and encourage Self Confidence, Self Esteem, and getting things done. These ancient stones reconnects you with your inner guides and amplifies their messages for you as you learn to communicate with them.
3 Crystals & Gemstones to encourage Self Confidence and Self Esteem
Tiger Eye Stone, Black Obsidian, and Blue Lapis Lazuli.
Tiger Eye Stones benefits engaging action, it automatically supports self confidence and getting things done.
Blue Lapis Lazuli Stones increase the ability to focus, to think on your feet, and to use your voice if it has been affected by negativity: negative people, negative situations, and negative inner self talk.
Black Obsidian comes from the fires of the Volcano and looks like black glass. It is a protection stone against all negativity that works like a shield over the positive energy and a positive attitude.
Want to see a particular stone in action, try typing the name or the emotion into the search box. (Eg. Black Tourmaline, Obsidian, self confidence, protection stone)